Hi folks. This is simply a post going over things which annoy me. First of all, generally I’m an easy-going mild mannered non-confrontational soul and I don’t get mad all that easily in general. However, there are some things which burn my toast, harsh my mellow, burn me up, any other metaphors to that effect apply here. I am going to make this list more general. I want to point out my annoyances, only two have them out there. The world and humans in general may not change, but at least you know if you are reading this and feel similarly about much the same things other people do, in our everyday lives, in order to show us how clownish they can be in public, outside of an entertainment settting. Sadly,some of my kind also do the same thing to our detriment.
To start things off, it is those who are on their phones, talking on speakerphone while they are out and about. First of all, I have an iPhone and I could go on speakerphone if I wish to do that, but I don’t. The reason is because the voice on the other end sounds tinny and I have no wish to hear both sides of one’s conversation, other than the one I may be having with someone calling me. Plus, both the caller and receiver tend to speak in a loud voice and this occurs at various times of the day, whether it is in my building’s hallway or Weather I’m out and about. It also happens sometimes with people who are on business and who are clearly doing work in our building.
Speakerphone is a great idea (in theory) in that you do not need to hold the phone in your hand while talking to whom ever you are conversing with at the time. I like that, but there is a time and a place for that and it is not while you are on an elevator, in the hallway of an apartment building complex, while doing laundry, or on public transit. There are such accessories as headphones and if used properly, you can still safely navigate while sporting them and you can still talk to your friend, without annoying other people. That I can deal with because I’m only hearing one side of the conversation, but I do not wish to be privy to hearing both sides of something, which is none of my business. Leave me out and leave everybody else out too, who could potentially hear what you’re saying, or what your friend is saying on the other end. Got it?
Next, those who live in group homes and not necessarily of their own accord. Actually, they make me sad, but what really annoys me is that these people were put in there against their will. They are only allowed certain freedoms and that’s it. They are expected to be happy, living in a place which is protected and they have everything done for them. So, they live in a perpetual cartoon, until reality comes crashing down on them.
I know this because of my 5 years in an institution for the blind and the slow and I am not just saying this out of hand either. Not everyone who lives in a group homes should be in a group home, as most of the people where I lived were taught to be independent. They were taught to cook, clean and do everything that you and I can do. However, because of various circumstances some people are put in group homes, or lodging homes and thus, thrown away from society and kept in the dark. They are only allowed certain freedoms to navigate throughout the day and they have nothing else to do except programming, which means nothing except it’s something for them to keep them busy while the world moves on without them even having a care in the world. So, can we change this? Probably not and I have more related comments about how some of us are being short changed.
Next, maybe it is just me, but I get rather annoyed with people who don’t explore their iPhones and especially those of my kind. I will grant that it took me a while to learn some things about the iPhone, like certain touch gestures I would eventually learn in the past four years. this is thanks to a recent option in the accessibility section of the iPhone “Commands” and I certainly take advantage of this because I can set things as I want them to be, for various functions and it has made my life easier.
You don’t need to only walk around with just a single compact default voice on your iPhone all of the time. There are some people who are blind, who just use the one voice and that’s all they know. They don’t realize that they can take advantage of many different voices and dialects and why not explore all the voices instead of using just the same one all of the time? If you have Wi-Fi, download a voice or two or three, if you have room on your iPhone and use an enhanced voice, because the compact ones sound just plain awful.
I also notice that people like myself have the voices on their computers or iPhones sped up, as they believe that it is better that way, in order for them to read what is on the screen faster. It sounds more robotic than it did at 50% or slower. I keep mine at 50% because it is the average pace of speech and we hear voices normally at that speed. If you don’t believe me, just listen to yourself talk, or maybe listen to your friend, or someone on either the radio, TV, or on Youtube doing one of their videos. Listen to the speed and then, slow your phone down to 50% and tell me that your friend, you, the person on the radio, TV, or on Youtube talk too slow. This is directed squarely at my blind folk. If your iPhone is too slow (at the speed I recommend), I guess that the average person is talking too slow for you too. Well? Are we talking too slow? Can you understtand every single word being said as it is spoken faster than my speed? You may at 60 or 70%, but it sounds less human and more like a robot, no matter what voice you use. Also, if you like to listen to speech that fast, I challenge each and every one of you who do, to repeat exactly (to my face) what was said, word for word… … without mistakes.
Sorry folks, but I have had just about enough with fast phone and computer speech and crappy sounding voices being used for VoiceOver, by people who do not know better. I choose to use the enhanced voices because the actually sound listenable and the ones which sound human, sound like living people. It’s sad that a voice like Alex has been wrecked by a synthesizer, because he actually breathes. There is a similar female voice named Donna, who was around for years and she also would take a breath sometimes, before a specific word and that is “Sunday”. I don’t know why, but she isn’t available for use by iOS at this time. Maybe unless there is a new version of the voice in the future, we can get her back. Meanwhile, we are stuck with Ava and she isn’t all that bad. Altho, my crush would currently be an Australian voice called Matilda and specifically, the enhanced version of her.
Next, people who talk on the elevator when I am trying to hear it go up or down and I could tell, by how many beeps it makes as it goes from floor to floor. Also, I can press the button for my floor thank you very much…… as I can read the numbers in both raised print and braille. Also, no need to tell me when I have reached my floor, because our elevator talks and she speaks when it reaches a specific floor, as directed by the users. It is not a courtesy, it is simply needless and not good elevator etiquette either. You get on the elevator, go to your floor and get off, without talking. Unfortunately, most people in our building do not realize this etiquette for riding in the cage. They may be way too involved in a conversation, which nobody needs to hear, either on their phone or to each other. They talk loudly or argue and as a result, I can not hear that I have reached my floor. The fact that they are telling me that I am there misses the point, that they should shut the fuck up, while they are in a lift, along with myself or anyone else. Nobody needs to hear your conversations or music, but more on the latter below.
As for listening to music, it depends whether or not I am on an elevator or somewhere else. That doesn’t bother me as long as it’s not overly loud that it drowns out the sound of the cage going from floor to floor. If one has chosen to blast music that is where I draw the line and if I wanted to, I would knock their phone out of their hand and turn it off. However, I wouldn’t do that, because I know that isn’t the right thing to do and I don’t want karma to bite me in the ass one day.
Speaking of music, I love music too and I like trying to listen to what everyone else is playing on their phone, because I can hear it. However, that is not the right etiquette and to be honest, nobody needs to hear what you’re listening to and nobody cares what bands you like. Then again, I’ve done it too in the past so, I’m guilty as charged. However, I have reformed my ways and I don’t listen to music overly loudly on the elevator anymore. I actually have stopped listening to music while going up and down because I have had no reason to do that now. Besides, I have other things on my mind, depending on where I am going and I have no wish to distract myself, with my favourite bands on my phone. Even watching TV was something I had no problem doing years ago and I leave that, for the bus or at home.
The only problem I have with other people listening to their music on phones is those who listen to songs loudly, with no regard for anybody else’. If you listen to music, listen to it at a volume, where it can not bother anyone. The other alternative is to listen to your music on EarPods, or the newer AirPods, which could be dangerous because you may not watch where you are going and hurt someone and yourself, because your music was turned up too loud. Again, I have no problem with music as I am also a musician, but be considerate of others when you’re out and about. Not everyone cares that you happen to be in love with the latest hip-hop star, or the best new metal band besides me. You see? I am willing to listen, but not everyone else may wish to hear that you may like a band like Slipknot, or The Rolling Stones, or Tool, or even Frank Sinatra. I like all of them, but not everyone does and I am okay with that and I am also considerate when it comes to listening to music, unlike some people.
Going back to the use of phones as phones for this next complaint, please put your phone on some sort of “Do Not Disturb” if and when you are in an important meeting, unless you really can not do that. In that case, that is why the newer versions of iOS has a feature called Focus, which allows only a chosen amount of people and apps to be let through the filter, in order to notify you that someone is trying to get a hold of you. You create a focus such as “Do Not Disturb” and you add only the people you must allow through, when meeting time comes. Also, make it only for business if your iPhone is used for that purpose. Getting a call from your mother or other family member on your business phone is not exactly the best thing in the world and should not be allowed during important meetings, unless family members work with you in some capacity. Let’s try to keep the calls to a minimum during these meetings as well. Nobody wants to hear a ringing phone, or a text coming through so, do not disturb. Got it?
Now I’m going to talk about people who are simply dim and who do not think outside the box, when it comes to simple situations and solving simple problems. For example: yesterday I was doing my recycling and somebody else was in there doing his and things seem to be okay and I was out of his way, while he had made attempts to put his stuff in an overflowing metal recycling box, which is about as tall as me and is on wheels. I had to deal with a similar situation by myself and it was nothing to sweat. Unfortunately, dimbow tried to dissuade me from doing my own recycling because the box was full. Yes it was, but I found the way and before that, he asked if I needed help I said “no we’re good” and I had to keep repeating the same phrase again because apparently, he didn’t understand. I needed no help and by saying “I’m good” or “we’re good” should have been a clear sign that I have this under control and I had gone through this before. Unfortunately, there seemed to be some sort of brain barrier as I had to yell at the guy a little bit and he continued not to comprehend that everything is fine, as long as this dumb dumb leaves me alone and goes on his way, to do whatever else he has to do. Unfortunately, this guy also had light fingers and tried to move my cart and I had to go “NO….. don’t touch” and at least that worked. I did what I had to do and went on my way, without his dimness following me to the elevator, like a bad smell and I went up to my apartment, with no further incident. By the way, I did manage to get my stuff in there and I did find a way, without anything falling out or on the floor, unlike the other guy. I simply felt around and found space that he simply couldn’t, or didn’t notice was available and put my recycling in the box. Now, it’s not my problem or his when it comes to taking the recycled material outside.
Next, people who leave things around or open where anybody can run into them and hurt themselves. No, not everybody runs, but those who cannot see can easily walk into things and hurt ourselves, with or without our mobility device. Also, what about a child who runs amok throughout the room and just happens to walk into something lying around, or is sharp? That does not teach a lesson, that hurts somebody.
I have much the same contempt for people in apartment buildings, who leave the garbage chute open or leave a mess of garbage on the floor, in front of or blocking the shoot. Some people leave garbage in the shoot, and don’t push it all the way down where it should be going. That is disgusting and could attract unwanted pests. Stop that and put your garbage down the shoot, where it is supposed to be. I shouldn’t have to touch your crap, when throwing my own garbage down. Got that?
Also, leaving the shoot open is not safe for anybody. Some people may not look down and walk into the shoot chest first. Once again, a small child may run around and hurt themselves on the open shoot Dore, or maybe even break the handle by the act of bumping into the door…… hard. Close the shoot and keep it closed for anybody else who wishes to open it up and throw the garbage down and then, that person should close the shoot and not leave it open for people to hurt themselves. Stop that, or you could hurt or kill somebody, if the worst does indeed happen.
Those in laundry rooms, please leave things where you found them. For example: if there is a garbage can out there which is meant for lint keep it in one place all of the time, where anybody can find it. Stop moving it around because anyone who does their laundry and empties the lint trap of a dryer, looks for the garbage can in order to throw the lint away. Why don’t people think of this stuff first before even setting foot in the laundry room? Are they truly narcissists, or are they just blissfully unaware or blissfully ignorant? So, if you find something laying around in a certain spot, don’t be moving it elsewhere so people can’t find it in the future. Stop that right now and consider others.
Finally, I also am at my wits end with people who just don’t give a shit. I don’t give a shit either, but there are people who don’t give a shit about anything but themselves. This includes the majority of the people I mentioned in this post. They do not think about others and they believe that they are the only people in the world and you could also call them the blissfully unaware or blissfully ignorant. They forget that they are not the only people in the world and there are others who are greater than them, or lesser than them. The people who don’t give a shit are people who go beyond the categories of people I have mentioned so far and are truly narcissistic and that it’s all about them and them alone. They are in their own little world and they think that they are the only thing alive that matters. I like to be alone, but I know I’m not the only thing that matters in my world. Radio, Youtube and TV keep me grounded on that level. That is why I don’t do what everybody else does, when problems arise. I tried to go as close to the source of who could fix the problem as possible. The reason? If you get to the source of the problem you can eliminate the problem easier rather than taking a more lengthy route, in order to nip something in the bud. When you go to the hospital and you have a problem, the doctor tries to find the best way possible to cure you of your ailment and not the most lengthy and painful process to stop whatever is ailing you in the first place. They want things to be as easy as possible Yet other people do not consider that they could go right to the source, or at least as close to the source as possible in order to get a problem solved.
I said that I don’t give a shit, but my level of not giving a shit goes as far as not hurting anyone, or not getting too close to peoples space and bothering them. The people I had mentioned do not understand the word no and frankly, they need to be back at school, to learn that there are two basic one word responses to questions and in most situations. If I wanted help I would say yes and if I don’t I would say no and that applies to other situations too, which only require one of those two words as a response, or any other words which may apply. I should not have to yell and scream at someone, in order for them to get the message and especially a fully grown adult. Yes and no are basic words we use every day, to answer some questions and what gets me, is how someone who is clearly an adult, can not simply comprehend that when I’m saying no, I mean no. I shouldn’t have to yell the word out loud for the whole world to hear and in the case of the person mentioned earlier, they did not work in the building and they were doing their own recycling. That was their business and I am not involved with their life, or anyone else’s lives unless something arises. Anyway, I hope I have made my point and I hope that maybe this post can change the world. Well… … maybe not, but I hope that enough people read this in order to make some sort of difference in not just my life, but others who may feel similarly, or those on the other end who may not realize that what they are doing is wrong.